I want to let you in on a secret, that I hope will not get me kicked out of the woman club: mothering is hard. It is very hard.Read More
Perhaps our permissive and entitled culture has contributed to a generation of kids who have lost the ability to see right from wrong and to rule themselves. If I hadn't told my kids no, how would they have grown up with the ability to tell themselves no?Read More
I am grateful that my worst day occurred far from Facebook, cameras, and the accusations of the world. We are so quick these days to point the finger, assign blame, and demand retribution and punishment- all on the few facts we read at the moment.Read More
If you want to know why remembering on Memorial Day is so important, and the depth of the debt we owe our soldiers, read one of the following books. If you read two or three of them, you might find your mind forever altered. You might even walk up to a random service person and give them a hug, just in sheer gratitude. Consider yourself warned!Read More
As I sit across the table from my kids at Mother's Day lunch, I am keenly aware of their mercy. They KNOW the real me. They have seen and experienced me in all my up-close and personal reality.Read More
The paradox of parenting is that by doing it right you work yourself right out of the first place in their heart.Read More
You know the kind of status I mean:
"To my husband who is the light of my day and the butter to my bread. You are my best friend, my soul mate, and the air to my lungs. I could not imagine life without you and I adore every moment of bliss that we share on this earth together."
Oh brother. You can almost hear the movie music in the background.
Just like Facebook statuses, movies can also make a girl feel just a tad dissatisfied. I mean, why can't our husband continually sweep us off our feet, and bring us flowers, and dance with us in the moonlight, and say just the right thing? Even their arguments are perfect.
Here is the problem with movies: they aren't real. They involve no mail, bills, laundry, home repairs, or any of the other mundane details of which life is so magnificently composed. (And my personal theory is if the guy is saying JUST the right thing his lines were most likely written by a girl.)
And here is the problem with Facebook statuses: they are not full disclosure statements. They say nothing about where he puts his dirty socks or how often he helps in the kitchen. They don't report on morning breath, the effect of beans on his digestive system, or if he willingly takes the trash out. They merrily gloss over the top of reality and fail to plumb the depths of true actuality.
I heartily applaud every wife who honors her husband with a glowing Facebook status. But I will NOT assume that after having read that status I know what kind of marriage they have or what kind of husband he is.
Life is messy. So are relationships. That is what makes them so interesting!
So go ENJOY the husband you have without sabotaging him with unrealistic expectations.
"We’re not, understand, putting ourselves in a league with those who boast that they’re our superiors. We wouldn’t dare do that. But in all this comparing and grading and competing, they quite miss the point." II Cor. 10:12- The Message